tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3573202264814033503.post1797637810020397549..comments2019-12-20T04:56:15.848-06:00Comments on Sweets & Stouts: Questions strangers shouldn't ask me about my family.Nataliehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05961897733290415630noreply@blogger.comBlogger19125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3573202264814033503.post-77571814198626535742011-03-30T03:17:44.241-05:002011-03-30T03:17:44.241-05:00This is exactly what we go through!! My husband a...This is exactly what we go through!! My husband and I are the proud parents of two beautiful little boys, both black, and we are white. It is always some dumb-ass stranger who asks the stupid questions. People always ask where they are from, and we give them a funky look, and say the city we are in, lol. And the "my cousin adopted from Haiti, or Russia or..." what do you want me to say to that?? "REALLY? I don't care." :) Or, "My friend adopted a girl from China, do you know her? I could introduce you!" Yeah, all us adoptive parents have a club. Oh, and we've been asked who their [birth] parents are, lol. That is one of my favorites. Like even if we said, they would know them??? Sheeesh!!!! <br /><br />Thank you, this was great!!<br /><br />~TiaAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3573202264814033503.post-1069604164521527302011-03-29T22:06:55.480-05:002011-03-29T22:06:55.480-05:00I run into a similar situation in that I have chil...I run into a similar situation in that I have children from several marriages (on both sides). There are no half-siblings or step-siblings, just brothers and sisters. How can you have half a child anyway?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3573202264814033503.post-66653057879227878082011-03-29T10:35:46.358-05:002011-03-29T10:35:46.358-05:00Thank you so much for putting all of this into wor...Thank you so much for putting all of this into words! My children are from South Korea and I have gotten so many of these same questions. I try to remember that most people do not understand a lot about adoption and try to be nice. BUT...One time while in Sam's Club, I had them both in the shopping cart and came around a corner where a man stopped dead in his tracks. I was staring at the kids and asked, "Where did you get them?" I said "Clearance Aisle number 7" and kept walking. <br />Thanks for making my day.<br />JenAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3573202264814033503.post-49176095479348686232010-11-23T14:50:03.860-06:002010-11-23T14:50:03.860-06:00Great post.
I dated a guy who told me that he wou...Great post.<br /><br />I dated a guy who told me that he wouldn't be ok with a black child because he just knew he'd get the question of what 'basketball player did your woman screw'... Uh, what??? This after I already have a child from China. Had no idea he felt that way... (supposedly he didn't about my daughter) and so I dumped him. :(<br /><br />People are rude and jerks.<br /><br />Loved your post.<br />MelissaMama Melissahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11731917736362150072noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3573202264814033503.post-17967538811792265412010-11-21T21:07:54.637-06:002010-11-21T21:07:54.637-06:00Constipated....Traci that was hilarious!! I never ...Constipated....Traci that was hilarious!! I never thought of that! Next time I'll hand the guy some Green Tea and tell him it works wonders. ;) ha!Nataliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05961897733290415630noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3573202264814033503.post-79714317410343118642010-11-21T20:32:03.779-06:002010-11-21T20:32:03.779-06:00Wow Natalie! I'm amazed at the crazy and inva...Wow Natalie! I'm amazed at the crazy and invasive questions complete strangers ask you!! I never knew. Every now and then I get a couple questions and odd looks (Are they yours? I mean did you HAVE them?) because with me being white my little amer-asian beauties look more like their Vietnamese daddy. It hurt my feelings a little at first because I was pretty sensitive the the fact they they didn't look like me. I think people are just curious and with reality tv the norm think they have a right to know whatever it is they want to know. They don't. But, as long as we are not getting disgusted looks (we actually have, btw- but, then again, maybe the guy was constipated or something) I don't mind so much anymore. <br /> <br />-TraciAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3573202264814033503.post-69919989678019058612010-11-18T00:35:37.024-06:002010-11-18T00:35:37.024-06:00As the mom of five adopted kids, three trans-racia...As the mom of five adopted kids, three trans-racially, this all rings true unfortunately. I once had a woman in an elevator ask me if my babies (one boy who is black, one girl who is white) were identical twins! I mean seriously!!!Sharlahttp://www.pocketsofchange.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3573202264814033503.post-33566828088030303922010-11-15T10:22:19.650-06:002010-11-15T10:22:19.650-06:00Just read this off of Hatton's blog. THANK YOU...Just read this off of Hatton's blog. THANK YOU! This is wonderful, hysterical and painfully true all at once. <br /><br />I, in particular get 'oh, well, I can see your kids get your hair' and 'is your husband really dark?' and 'are they "real" brother and sister' and 'are you going to have another of your "own"'<br /><br />Those are the ones that make me really (depending on the day) hysterical or MAD.<br /><br />TovaAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3573202264814033503.post-49119789554956976882010-11-13T18:54:49.024-06:002010-11-13T18:54:49.024-06:00I just followed a link to this and so hear you!
I...I just followed a link to this and so hear you! <br />I was just asked if my children were born and when the "or" part of the question happened and I heard where it was ignorantly going, I quickly answered that yes, they were born- leaving her with a confused look as she looked from me to my husband. uhhuh.Ramonahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11543009756679073312noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3573202264814033503.post-35716273924699389872010-11-13T08:41:04.648-06:002010-11-13T08:41:04.648-06:00Hattons - HILARIOUS!!! I'm using that line. No...Hattons - HILARIOUS!!! I'm using that line. No problem about linking it! :) Glad it has given everyone a laugh and hopefully other people a litte education on the way. <br /><br />Thank you everyone!Nataliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05961897733290415630noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3573202264814033503.post-45959879554601904972010-11-13T08:29:43.715-06:002010-11-13T08:29:43.715-06:00i just stumbled across your post. love it! thank y...i just stumbled across your post. love it! thank you.Lavonnehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15570143383826108862noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3573202264814033503.post-37769081514057741602010-11-11T21:04:49.083-06:002010-11-11T21:04:49.083-06:00Oh my word! I laughed out loud. And seriously, I...Oh my word! I laughed out loud. And seriously, I needed to laugh today. Everyone of these is so true. I can tell you that when asked where I "got" my son, I've told people Ebay and ToysRUs had a cabbage patch sale, but look, mine turned into a real boy! When asked how much he cost, I asked what size panties she was wearing. <br /><br />Since you didn't mind it going on facebook, I hope you don't mind that I linked it from my blog.The Hattons...https://www.blogger.com/profile/05326182756224957660noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3573202264814033503.post-14519989283036651972010-11-10T06:32:54.851-06:002010-11-10T06:32:54.851-06:00Wow, Natalie, well said! You did a great job! Now ...Wow, Natalie, well said! You did a great job! Now add the handicapped feature and you get a whole new set of idiots! hahahahahaha!!!momnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3573202264814033503.post-56463971246250919882010-11-09T23:13:11.648-06:002010-11-09T23:13:11.648-06:00oh Natalie...i'm sorry people are such idiots....oh Natalie...i'm sorry people are such idiots. We dont even have our kiddos yet and we are already getting awkward questions and comments from people. Cant wait for all this fun (insert sarcasm here).Nicole Bhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12733996946468387974noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3573202264814033503.post-1926702341469287672010-11-09T23:00:22.185-06:002010-11-09T23:00:22.185-06:00This is great!!!This is great!!!Robinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06195680153506641193noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3573202264814033503.post-51383211031806728082010-11-09T21:25:38.274-06:002010-11-09T21:25:38.274-06:00I kind of love you.I kind of love you.Jennahttp://thechroniclesofmunchkinland.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3573202264814033503.post-19836987948282076772010-11-09T20:56:31.509-06:002010-11-09T20:56:31.509-06:00Sure! Share as you will, educate the world so I do...Sure! Share as you will, educate the world so I don't do it with a bad temper! ;) <br /><br />Meghann - so true! This can apply to any family made by adoption!Nataliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05961897733290415630noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3573202264814033503.post-37601257842432020362010-11-09T20:45:41.623-06:002010-11-09T20:45:41.623-06:00I love your post! I would love to share it on face...I love your post! I would love to share it on facebook with some of my friends. I think it will give a lot of people a wake up call!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3573202264814033503.post-60906025854750928552010-11-09T20:42:50.911-06:002010-11-09T20:42:50.911-06:00My kids are of the same race as my husband and me ...My kids are of the same race as my husband and me - but I could have written all the parts of this post that don't apply specifically to trans-racial adoption. But I wouldn't have been half as nice as you are about it! :)meghannhttp://meghann.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.com